managing his own household well, having children in submission with all dignity

Deacons must be husbands of one wife, managing [their] children and their own households well.

For those who have served well acquire a good standing for themselves, and great boldness in the faith [that is] in Christ Jesus.

being well-attested by good works, if she has brought up children, if she has shown hospitality, if she has washed the feet of the saints, if she has helped those who are oppressed, if she has devoted herself to every good work.

The elders who lead well must be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor by speaking and teaching.